{"id":3329,"date":"2021-01-11T00:37:10","date_gmt":"2021-01-11T00:37:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/?p=3329"},"modified":"2021-01-11T00:37:10","modified_gmt":"2021-01-11T00:37:10","slug":"phuong-phap-song-hanh-phuc-kieu-chap-nhan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/?p=3329","title":{"rendered":"PH\u01af\u01a0NG PH\u00c1P S\u1ed0NG H\u1ea0NH PH\u00daC KI\u1ec2U CH\u1ea4P NH\u1eacN"},"content":{"rendered":"

“L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac?<\/em>” T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi v\u00e0 theo \u0111u\u1ed5i n\u00f3 su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eddi. Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng Scott Haas \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u00e0 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u00f4ng qua nh\u01b0\u0303ng tra\u0309i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a mi\u0300nh v\u1edbi v\u0103n h\u00f3a Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n trong nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m. <\/span>Ukeireru<\/em><\/strong> l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1eeb ti\u1ebfng Nh\u1eadt c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 “ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn<\/strong><\/em>“.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Ukeireru c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a c\u1ee7a h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

G\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y, cu\u0323m t\u01b0\u0300 “ukeireru” xu\u00e2\u0301t hi\u00ea\u0323n kha\u0301 p\u00f4\u0309 bi\u00ea\u0301n tr\u00ean tin t\u1ee9c\u00a0<\/sub>nh\u1edd t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 Scott Haas v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch m\u1edbi ph\u00e1t h\u00e0nh b\u00e1n ch\u1ea1y g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng\u00a0“Why Be Happy: The Japanese Way of Acceptance”<\/em>. \u00dd t\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1eb1ng sau cu\u1ed1n s\u00e1ch l\u00e0 ca\u0301ch s\u00f4\u0301ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng th\u1eed th\u00e1ch trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng giu\u0301p ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t khi b\u1ea1n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec xung quanh m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i, chu\u0301ng ta c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u1ec3 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh quan s\u00e1t v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng ba\u0309n th\u00e2n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. Do \u0111\u00f3, chu\u0301ng ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng hi\u1ec3u c\u00e1c quan \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c va\u0300 \u0111i\u00ea\u0300u \u0111o\u0301 giu\u0301p xo\u0301a tan mo\u0323i c\u0103ng th\u0103\u0309ng.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Haas l\u00e0m s\u00e1ng t\u1ecf \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 ukeireru n\u00e0y b\u1eb1ng nhi\u1ec1u v\u00ed d\u1ee5 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn. V\u00ed d\u1ee5, im l\u1eb7ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t d\u1ea1ng ukeireru<\/em>. Trong ch\u01b0\u01a1ng “Im l\u1eb7ng”<\/em>, \u00f4ng m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 r\u1eb1ng \u1edf Nh\u1eadt, s\u1ef1 im l\u1eb7ng th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ec3 giao ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi l\u1eddi n\u00f3i. N\u00f3 gi\u00fap x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng l\u00f2ng tin, b\u00e0y t\u1ecf s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi th\u00f4ng qua vi\u1ec7c l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 quan s\u00e1t. N\u1ebfu ai \u0111o\u0301 \u0111ang b\u1eadn n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra \u00fd ki\u1ebfn \u200b\u200bc\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, thi\u0300 ng\u01b0\u01a1\u0300i \u0111o\u0301 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp thu.<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u00f4\u0303i ng\u01b0\u01a1\u0300i s\u1ebd t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i v\u00e0 vui v\u1ebb b\u0103\u0300ng nhi\u00ea\u0300u ca\u0301ch kha\u0301c nhau, nh\u01b0ng v\u1edbi l\u00f4\u0301i s\u00f4\u0301ng ki\u00ea\u0309u ukeireru, chu\u0301ng ta c\u00f3 th\u00ea\u0309 gi\u1ea3m c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 lo l\u1eafng th\u00f4ng qua h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0 giao ti\u1ebfp c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 l\u1eafng nghe b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<\/em>. \u0110i\u00ea\u0309m c\u00f4\u0301t lo\u0303i \u01a1\u0309 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 chu\u0301ng ta bi\u00ea\u0301t d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 d\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat th\u1eddi gian tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi \u0111\u01b0a ra quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u00f4\u0301i v\u01a1\u0301i nh\u01b0\u0303ng v\u00e2\u0301n \u0111\u00ea\u0300 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ba\u0309n th\u00e2n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thay v\u00ec ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c khi nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tin x\u1ea5u, ch\u0103\u0309ng ha\u0323n nh\u01b0: Kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a, ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng b\u1ea1n qu\u00ean r\u1eeda b\u00e1t thi\u0300 ukeireru d\u1ea1y chu\u0301ng ta t\u1eadp d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i, suy ng\u1eabm v\u1ec1 th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng mang \u0111\u00ea\u0301n<\/em>. H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa, Haas co\u0300n h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u00f4\u0323t s\u00f4\u0301 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng pha\u0301p kh\u00e1c gi\u00fap th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn.<\/span><\/p>\n

– S\u1eed d\u1ee5ng c\u00e1c tho\u0301i quen h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y \u0111\u00ea\u0309 t\u00ecm l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh<\/em> \u2014 \u0110i\u00ea\u0300u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 pha m\u1ed9t t\u00e1ch c\u00e0 ph\u00ea bu\u1ed5i s\u00e1ng ho\u1eb7c tr\u00e0 chi\u1ec1u m\u00f4\u0303i nga\u0300y.<\/span><\/p>\n

– Th\u00f3i quen th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n<\/em> la\u0300 m\u00f4\u0323t ph\u00e2\u0300n kh\u00f4ng th\u00ea\u0309 thi\u00ea\u0301u cu\u0309a h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, ch\u1eb3ng h\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 ng\u1ee7 tr\u01b0a v\u00e0 t\u1eafm ma\u0301t xa<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

– Th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng t\u1ed1i gi\u1ea3n h\u01a1n trong c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 v\u00e0 tr\u1ea3i nghi\u1ec7m mang l\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u b\u00ecnh y\u00ean h\u01a1n<\/em> \u2014 Ba\u0323n c\u00e0ng l\u00e0m \u00edt vi\u1ec7c ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u0103\u0323t s\u01b0\u0323 chu\u0301 y\u0301 l\u00ean ca\u0300ng i\u0301t ng\u01b0\u01a1\u0300i, b\u1ea1n c\u00e0ng \u00edt c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng h\u01a1n trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.<\/span><\/p>\n

– D\u00e0nh nhi\u1ec1u th\u1eddi gian h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe<\/em> v\u00e0 \u00edt th\u1eddi gian h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n.<\/span><\/p>\n

– Trau d\u1ed3i nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng pha\u0301p t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi c\u01a1n gi\u1eadn d\u1eef<\/em> v\u00e0 tranh lu\u1eadn, t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n cho b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/span><\/p>\n

B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch l\u00e0m t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, ukeireru gi\u00fap chu\u0301ng ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c r\u00f5 h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng gian xung quanh ba\u0309n th\u00e2n. Nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c n\u00e0y nh\u1eb1m gi\u00fap m\u00f4\u0303i ng\u01b0\u01a1\u0300i \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c (v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00edch c\u1ef1c) x\u1ea3y ra trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a mi\u0300nh. M\u00f4\u0303i nga\u0300y, ha\u0303y ho\u0323c ca\u0301ch s\u1ed1ng ch\u1eadm l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 da\u0300nh th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u, thay v\u00ec ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u2014 Ch\u00ednh nh\u01b0\u0303ng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng t\u01b0\u0301c thi\u0300 \u0111\u00f3 la\u0300 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y th\u00eam c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u00ea\u0309 mang ukeireru v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m l\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng ch\u1eadm l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 d\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 x\u1ea5u.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

L\u1ea7n t\u1edbi khi \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p x\u1ea3y ra, h\u00e3y d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 suy ngh\u0129 tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng<\/em>, v\u00e0 cho ph\u00e9p b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n c\u00f3 th\u00eam th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0\u0303ng \u0111i\u00ea\u0300u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p<\/em>. Khi c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 – h\u00e3y d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i v\u00e0 suy ng\u1eabm v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra, v\u00e0 d\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 xem b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc l\u00e0 g\u00ec v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng t\u00edch c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 c\u00e1c b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, ba\u0300n lu\u00e2\u0323n v\u00ea\u0300 m\u00f4\u0323t tho\u0301i quen, v\u00e2\u0301n \u0111\u00ea\u0300 d\u00ea\u0303 h\u01a1n nhi\u00ea\u0300u so v\u01a1\u0301i vi\u00ea\u0323c th\u01b0\u0323c ha\u0300nh no\u0301. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 se\u0303 m\u1ea5t m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 b\u0103\u0301t \u0111\u00e2\u0300u la\u0300m quen v\u01a1\u0301i ca\u0301ch s\u00f4\u0301ng ch\u00e2\u0323m la\u0323i, nh\u01b0ng mo\u0323i th\u01b0\u0301 \u0111\u00ea\u0300u co\u0301 ca\u0301i gia\u0301 cu\u0309a no\u0301. M\u00f4\u0323t khi t\u00e2\u0323p trung va\u0300o ba\u0309n th\u00e2n va\u0300 ca\u0301c suy nghi\u0303 cu\u0309a chi\u0301nh mi\u0300nh cu\u0303ng nh\u01b0 ch\u00e2\u0301p nh\u00e2\u0323n nh\u01b0\u0303ng chuy\u00ea\u0323n kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0 y\u0301 mu\u00f4\u0301n, ba\u0323n se\u0303 ho\u0323c \u0111\u01b0\u01a1\u0323c ca\u0301ch tr\u00e2n tro\u0323ng cu\u00f4\u0323c s\u00f4\u0301ng h\u01a1n va\u0300 ha\u0323nh phu\u0301c h\u01a1n. \u0110o\u0301 la\u0300 mo\u0301n qua\u0301 l\u01a1\u0301n nh\u00e2\u0301t ma\u0300 kh\u00f4ng \u0111i\u00ea\u0300u gi\u0300 co\u0301 th\u00ea\u0309 \u0111a\u0301nh \u0111\u00f4\u0309i \u0111\u01b0\u01a1\u0323c.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u01afU T\u1ea6M<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“L\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac?” T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi v\u00e0 theo \u0111u\u1ed5i n\u00f3 su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eddi. Nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc l\u00e2m s\u00e0ng Scott Haas \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n v\u00e0 hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u00f4ng qua nh\u01b0\u0303ng tra\u0309i nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a mi\u0300nh v\u1edbi v\u0103n h\u00f3a Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[25],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3329"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3329"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3329\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3330,"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3329\/revisions\/3330"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3329"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3329"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3329"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}