{"id":2598,"date":"2020-03-11T01:44:22","date_gmt":"2020-03-11T01:44:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/?p=2598"},"modified":"2020-03-11T03:41:37","modified_gmt":"2020-03-11T03:41:37","slug":"cung-suy-ngam-va-hoc-hoi-12-quy-luat-cuoc-song","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tvtinvest.com\/?p=2598","title":{"rendered":"C\u00d9NG SUY NG\u1eaaM V\u00c0 H\u1eccC H\u1eceI 12 QUY LU\u1eacT CU\u1ed8C S\u1ed0NG"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng lu\u00f4n tu\u00e2n theo c\u00e1c quy lu\u1eadt c\u1ee7a n\u00f3, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u c\u00e1c quy lu\u1eadt n\u00e0y ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd s\u1ed1ng cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi vui v\u1ebb h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n. H\u00e3y c\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ecdc v\u00e0 suy ng\u1eabm v\u1ec1 c\u00e1c quy lu\u1eadt sau \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n nh\u00e9 :<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 1: \u0110\u1ee9ng th\u1eb3ng hi\u00ean ngang<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea5u v\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ecd r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u so v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129. Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Peterson l\u1ea5y h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a lo\u00e0i t\u00f4m h\u00f9m l\u00e0m v\u00ed d\u1ee5. T\u00f4m h\u00f9m c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i h\u00e0nh vi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang d\u1ef1a theo h\u00e0m l\u01b0\u1ee3ng serotonin\/octopamine. T\u00f4m h\u00f9m chi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea5u m\u1ecdi l\u00fac. Khi m\u1ed9t con t\u00f4m h\u00f9m chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng, h\u00e0m l\u01b0\u1ee3ng serotonin c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 t\u0103ng l\u00ean t\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ea3n v\u1edbi h\u00e0m l\u01b0\u1ee3ng octopamine. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, t\u00f4m h\u00f9m c\u00f3 l\u01b0\u1ee3ng serotonin th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n octopamine s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem l\u00e0 k\u1ebb thua cu\u1ed9c.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ee9ng th\u1eb3ng v\u01b0\u01a1n vai v\u00e0 d\u00e1m b\u00e0y t\u1ecf suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ngay khi ch\u00fang ta g\u1eb7p ai \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta lu\u00f4n ng\u1ea7m \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 xem h\u1ecd ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi th\u1ee9 b\u1eadc x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00e0o<\/em>. Khi h\u00e0m l\u01b0\u1ee3ng serotonin gi\u1ea3m, tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m s\u1ebd xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t xu h\u01b0\u1edbng khi\u1ebfn d\u00e1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb u\u1ed1ng cong nh\u01b0 t\u00f4m h\u00f9m, khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft h\u01a1n trong m\u1eaft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c khi \u0111i tr\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng. Theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng, h\u1ecd r\u1ea5t c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 th\u1ea5p v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n, khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u1ea7m ng\u1eafm n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng ai \u0111\u00f3. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebb th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. Vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda sang t\u01b0 th\u1ebf c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 r\u1ea5t \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u l\u1ea1i t\u1eeb \u0111\u1ea7u.<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00ec v\u1eady, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1ee9ng th\u1eb3ng v\u01b0\u01a1n vai v\u00e0 d\u00e1m b\u00e0y t\u1ecf suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u00cdt nh\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn c\u00f3 \u0111\u1eb7c quy\u1ec1n gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i l\u00e0 l\u1edbn h\u01a1n.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 2: \u0110\u1ed1i x\u1eed v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Peterson lo ng\u1ea1i r\u1eb1ng, h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u t\u1ef1 xem th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3<\/em><\/strong>. Tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, trong h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 xu h\u01b0\u1edbng ch\u0103m s\u00f3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 v\u00e0 th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u1ea3 th\u00fa c\u01b0ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u00e0 b\u1ecf b\u00ea b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, vi\u1ec7c gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng, quan t\u00e2m v\u00e0 thay m\u1eb7t h\u1ecd th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u r\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng ch\u00fang ta c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, v\u00ec l\u1ee3i \u00edch c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta. \u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n nh\u01b0 gi\u1eef cho c\u0103n ph\u00f2ng v\u00e0 m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ea1ch s\u1ebd, ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 s\u00e2u s\u1eafc h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 gi\u1eef l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 coi m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan tr\u1ecdng v\u1edbi kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng, quy\u1ec1n l\u1ee3i v\u00e0 l\u00f2ng kh\u00e1t khao.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, c\u00e0ng ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00e0ng kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh v\u00e0 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u0103m s\u00f3c nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ta quan t\u00e2m<\/em>. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fang ta b\u1ecf b\u00ea b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n s\u1ebd t\u1ea1o ra m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng sai l\u1ea7m, cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta m\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi xung quanh.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 3: K\u1ebft b\u1ea1n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ai mong mu\u1ed1n \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p nh\u1ea5t cho b\u1ea1n<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 hai lo\u1ea1i gia quy\u1ebfn: M\u1ed9t l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 anh ta sinh ra v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 anh ta t\u1ef1 ch\u1ecdn \u2013 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8. Vi\u1ec7c l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan tr\u1ecdng n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u1eb9 v\u00ec h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f3 t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/em><\/strong>. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 ngh\u0129a v\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh xa nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang l\u00e0m cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh ai n\u00ean th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ai th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng, kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t quy \u0111\u1ecbnh lu\u00e2n th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ea1o l\u00fd n\u00e0o g\u00e2y kh\u00f3 x\u1eed v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u1ea3<\/em><\/strong>. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eb9p m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n mu\u1ed1n gi\u1edbi thi\u1ec7u n\u00f3 cho ai \u0111\u00f3, v\u1eady t\u1ea1i sao b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn gi\u1eef n\u00f3 trong l\u00f2ng? H\u00e3y k\u1ebft th\u00fac n\u00f3 ngay b\u00e2y gi\u1edd!<\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0, t\u1ea1i sao nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0a ra c\u00e1c l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn t\u1ed1t? B\u1edfi v\u00ec v\u00e2y quanh b\u1ea1n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t v\u00e0 kh\u1ecfe m\u1ea1nh lu\u00f4n kh\u00f3 h\u01a1n t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i. Tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p v\u00e0 kh\u1ecfe kho\u1eafn \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi\u00a0<\/strong>s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh<\/a>, s\u1ef1 t\u00e1o b\u1ea1o v\u00e0 l\u00f2ng quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ecdn nh\u1eefng con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn. Do \u0111\u00f3, \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ee9ng g\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, t\u00e1o b\u1ea1o v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111o\u00e1n, s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 l\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch kh\u1eaft khe d\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n s\u1ebd gi\u00fap \u00edch cho b\u1ea1n<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, s\u1ed1ng xung quanh nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u1ea5u v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng \u0111\u01b0a ra s\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn h\u01a1n nhi\u1ec1u. \u1ede ph\u00eda d\u01b0\u1edbi lu\u00f4n thu\u1eadn ti\u1ec7n h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi b\u00ean tr\u00ean. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u1ea5u s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn\u00a0s\u1ef1 l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng<\/a>, s\u1ed1ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh, th\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ea1i, ch\u1ecbu \u0111\u1ef1ng b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng ho\u1eb7c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00ec l\u1ee3i \u00edch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 4: So s\u00e1nh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh b\u1ea1n ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m qua, ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c h\u00f4m nay<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi lu\u00f4n c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng so s\u00e1nh m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 theo m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00ecnh c\u1edd, h\u1ecd th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng h\u01a1n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n ch\u00fang ta<\/em>. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi b\u1ea1n nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y ho\u1eb7c tin r\u1eb1ng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n b\u1ea1n, so s\u00e1nh \u1ea5y l\u00e0 v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00edch l\u1ee3i g\u00ec c\u1ea3, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00e1c nhau m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t ho\u1eb7c li\u1ec7u r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111ang th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n hay kh\u00f4ng, v\u00ec b\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t l\u00e1t c\u1eaft c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng xung quanh m\u00ecnh. T\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 l\u00e0m phi\u1ec1n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n n\u00f3 v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt suy ngh\u0129 li\u1ec7u b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi n\u00f3 hay kh\u00f4ng<\/em><\/strong>. N\u1ebfu n\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i th\u1ee9 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eb1m trong kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n th\u00ec h\u00e3y c\u00f4 l\u1eadp n\u00f3 v\u00e0 t\u1eadp trung v\u00e0o th\u1ee9 kh\u00e1c, v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n. H\u01a1n n\u1eefa, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n thay \u0111\u1ed5i cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n ch\u1ec9 trong v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y. M\u1ed9t v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1n \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00fat th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c. Ti\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t b\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n, h\u00e3y s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi suy ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n \u0111ang \u1edf trong m\u1ed9t ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m qua v\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1ecb tr\u00ed ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng cao h\u01a1n, n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i l\u00e0 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ea7u<\/em><\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 5: \u0110\u1eebng \u0111\u1ec3 con b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng \u01b0a ch\u00fang<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Cha m\u1eb9 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng ph\u1ea1m nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m g\u00e2y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Cha m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p nh\u01b0 h\u1ecd ngh\u0129. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3 \u0111\u0169a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0m phi\u1ec1n h\u1ecd, ngay c\u1ea3 v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, b\u1edfi v\u00ec n\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra trong v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c<\/em><\/strong>. B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng, “\u1ed3 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3, t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd l\u00e0m g\u00ec t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ebfn con c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i”, nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 ti\u1ec1m th\u1ee9c v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 chuy\u00ean ch\u1ebf b\u1eaft ngu\u1ed3n t\u1eeb b\u00ean trong h\u1ecd v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 chuy\u00ean ch\u1ebf \u0111\u00f3 d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 \u00edt s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n, \u0111i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh con c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n<\/em>. V\u00ec v\u1eady, \u0111\u00f3i, c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng, m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi ho\u1eb7c th\u1eadm ch\u00ed l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 t\u1ea1i n\u01a1i l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 \u0111\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n m\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh v\u00e0 tr\u1edf n\u00ean v\u00f4 l\u00fd h\u01a1n v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jordan B. Peterson c\u0169ng n\u00eau ra m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc v\u1ec1 k\u1ef7 lu\u1eadt. Theo \u0111\u00f3, cha m\u1eb9 n\u00ean h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf c\u00e1c quy t\u1eafc v\u00e0 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c thi ch\u00fang<\/em>. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd n\u00ean nghi\u00eam kh\u1eafc, h\u1eb1n h\u1ecdc, ki\u00eau ng\u1ea1o, b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i ho\u1eb7c t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ee9c n\u00e0o khi \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t con c\u00e1i. Cha m\u1eb9 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea1i di\u1ec7n nh\u1ecf cho th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi th\u1ef1c, l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd d\u1ea1y v\u00e0 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb cho con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd m\u1ed9t x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u00e1ng m\u01a1 \u01b0\u1edbc cho th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 6: \u0110\u1eb7t ng\u00f4i nh\u00e0 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n trong m\u1ed9t tr\u1eadt t\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 n\u01a1i n\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y, ta \u0111\u1ec1u th\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea5t th\u01b0\u1eddng v\u00e0 c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e0n n\u00e0n. \u0110\u00fang l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y th\u1eadt bi th\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u \u00edt nhi\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u00e1c c\u1ea3m v\u1ec1 n\u00f3<\/em><\/strong>. Tuy nhi\u00ean, n\u1ebfu ch\u00fang ta s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec ch\u1eb3ng c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i \u00edch g\u00ec c\u1ea3 v\u00ec ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i<\/em><\/strong>. Nguy\u1ec1n r\u1ee7a v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch m\u1ecdi l\u00fac l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a h\u01a1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n. Lu\u00f4n b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i m\u1ecdi l\u00fac khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n b\u1ecf b\u00ea b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 ph\u1edbt l\u1edd r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n \u0111ang coi th\u01b0\u1eddng. V\u00ec v\u1eady, h\u00e3y ch\u0103m s\u00f3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n tr\u01b0\u1edbc, ng\u1eebng l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 sai, b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o<\/em><\/strong>. B\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean l\u00e0 mang l\u1ea1i h\u00f2a b\u00ecnh cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh b\u1ea1n, sau \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch ch\u00ednh quy\u1ec1n v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng \u0111\u00f3ng g\u00f3p \u0111\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 7: Theo \u0111u\u1ed5i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u00fd ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n kh\u1ecfi m\u1ecdi \u0111au kh\u1ed5 m\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi<\/em>. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u b\u1ecb t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac b\u1edfi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng n\u00ean h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i t\u00ecm m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho n\u1ed7i \u0111au \u1ea5y tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u00e1ng gi\u00e1. Theo Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Jordan B. Peterson, \u00fd ngh\u0129a gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9t d\u1ea1ng t\u1ea7m nh\u00ecn cho ph\u00e9p b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft li\u1ec7u b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 \u0111ang \u1edf \u0111\u00fang n\u01a1i hay kh\u00f4ng<\/em>. \u0110\u00fang n\u01a1i \u0111\u00fang ch\u1ed7 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u01a1i n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 \u1edf gi\u1eefa h\u1ed7n lo\u1ea1n v\u00e0 tr\u1eadt t\u1ef1<\/em><\/strong>. Gi\u1eef an to\u00e0n trong tr\u1eadt t\u1ef1 m\u1ecdi l\u00fac v\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh h\u01a1n. M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n \u1edf trong s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7n \u0111\u1ed9n th\u00ec b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb l\u1ea1c l\u1ed1i. S\u1ef1 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 r\u1eddi kh\u1ecfi \u0111i\u1ec3m an to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng m\u1ea1o hi\u1ec3m cho b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng gi\u00e1 nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eebng l\u1ea1c m\u1ea5t qu\u1ef9 \u0111\u1ea1o d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7n mang.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Kh\u1ea9n tr\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta l\u00e0m \u0111\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y v\u00e0 ngay l\u00fac n\u00e0y, nh\u01b0ng nh\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u1ecd hy sinh t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai cho hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 nhanh nh\u1ea1y ch\u1ec9 t\u1ed1t cho vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, h\u00e3y \u0111\u1eb7t ra m\u1ee5c ti\u00eau cao nh\u1ea5t. Ng\u1eebng l\u00e0m b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng quan s\u00e1t xung quanh. Hi\u1ec3u nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n v\u00e0 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n ch\u00fang<\/em><\/strong>. Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ki\u1ebfn \u200b\u200bth\u1ee9c v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u kinh nghi\u1ec7m h\u01a1n nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y th\u1eadn tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o c\u00e1i b\u1eaby tr\u1edf n\u00ean ki\u00eau ng\u1ea1o v\u00e0 gi\u1eef l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 khi\u00eam t\u1ed1n<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Jordan Peterson c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1ea7m quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta<\/em><\/strong>. \u0110\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1ea7n ph\u1eadt \u00fd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea5u k\u00edn, s\u1ef1 h\u00e8n nh\u00e1t, h\u1eadn th\u00f9 v\u00e0 c\u00e1c nh\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c. H\u00e3y h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch khoan dung khi b\u1ea1n bu\u1ed9c t\u1ed9i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u00ec t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec1u che gi\u1ea5u nh\u1eefng c\u01a1n b\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed3ng x\u1ea5u xa<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 8: H\u00e3y n\u00f3i s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt \u2013 ho\u1eb7c ch\u00ed \u00edt c\u0169ng \u0111\u1eebng n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u00f4i khi l\u00e0 n\u00f3i ra s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u1eafc nghi\u1ec7t v\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fac kh\u00f3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c<\/em>. Tuy nhi\u00ean, r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft khi n\u00e0o ch\u00fang ta n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i. Do \u0111\u00f3, khi ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt ho\u1eb7c ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i ra \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u1ebfp theo ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i<\/em><\/strong>. Theo Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Peterson, s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta v\u00ec n\u00f3 g\u1eafn li\u1ec1n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u00fd ngh\u0129a<\/em>. Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0a b\u1ea1n ra kh\u1ecfi r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i<\/em><\/strong>, \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c, nh\u01b0ng v\u1ec1 l\u00e2u d\u00e0i, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi tin t\u01b0\u1edfng. S\u1ebd c\u00f3 l\u00fac b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m g\u00ec nh\u01b0ng h\u00e3y lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng: B\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt<\/em><\/strong>! N\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n khi \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0o.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

B\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt! N\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho m\u1ecdi vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n khi \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi b\u1ea5t k\u1ef3 t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0o<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i s\u1ebd khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft th\u1eddi gian, \u1edf kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i, b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y k\u1ef3 l\u1ea1, y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t an. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00f3 v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u nghi ng\u1edd b\u1ea1n. Ngay c\u1ea3 khi h\u1ecd t\u00ecnh c\u1edd kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ee9ng minh b\u1ea1n sai, b\u1ea1n v\u1eabn kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u00ec b\u1ea1n bi\u1ebft b\u1ea1n n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i v\u00e0 b\u1ea1n gi\u1ea3 t\u1ea1o. N\u00f3i d\u1ed1i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed1i l\u1eadp c\u1ee7a \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf. \u0110i\u1ec1u duy nh\u1ea5t b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n tho\u00e1t kh\u1ecfi m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, nh\u01b0ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 9: Tin r\u1eb1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang l\u1eafng nghe bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Khi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi tranh lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng r\u01a1i v\u00e0o c\u00e1i b\u1eaby c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng gi\u00e0nh chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng trong cu\u1ed9c tranh lu\u1eadn \u1ea5y v\u00e0 b\u1ecf l\u1ee1 quan \u0111i\u1ec3m th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tr\u00f2 chuy\u1ec7n t\u1ed1t. Vi\u1ec7c \u0111i ra lu\u00f4n kh\u00f4n ngoan h\u01a1n khi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i v\u00e0o. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o cho vi\u1ec7c suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n th\u00f4ng minh h\u01a1n<\/em><\/strong>. N\u1ebfu ng\u1eabu nhi\u00ean b\u1ea1n \u0103n n\u00f3i tr\u00f4i ch\u1ea3y h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111ang t\u00ecnh c\u1edd ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i anh ta m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4n ngoan h\u01a1n b\u1ea1n, mi\u1ec5n l\u00e0 anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i b\u00e0y t\u1ecf quan \u0111i\u1ec3m \u200b\u200bc\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, anh \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 th\u1eafng cu\u1ed9c b\u1edfi v\u00ec b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng trao cho anh \u1ea5y m\u1ed9t c\u01a1 may n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng. V\u00e0 nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3: V\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 v\u1ec1 chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n l\u00e0m l\u00e0 t\u1eadn d\u1ee5ng t\u1ed1t nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111ang c\u1ed1 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n<\/em>. H\u00e3y cho anh ta m\u1ed9t c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n hi\u1ec3u ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec anh \u1ea5y \u0111ang ngh\u0129.<\/em><\/strong> Ai m\u00e0 bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a anh \u1ea5y t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n v\u00e0 ng\u0103n b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi c\u00e1c v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai. Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Peterson th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng h\u00e3y l\u1eafng nghe k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n<\/em><\/strong>. Ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd n\u00f3i d\u1ed1i v\u1ec1 b\u1ea1n, nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd s\u1ebd th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn.<\/em> H\u00e3y h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch “t\u00e1ch l\u00faa m\u00ec ra kh\u1ecfi v\u1ecf tr\u1ea5u”.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 10: Ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c trong t\u1eebng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Theo Jordan Peterson, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i li\u00ean h\u1ec7 kh\u00f4ng v\u1eb9n to\u00e0n gi\u1eefa giao ti\u1ebfp v\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n th\u1ef1c. Ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef l\u1ea5y \u0111i nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00ed \u1ea9n t\u1eeb s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7n mang v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7t cho n\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i t\u00ean bi\u1ebfn n\u00f3 th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t v\u1eadt. M\u1ed9t khi v\u1eadt \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1eafn v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i t\u00ean th\u00ec b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t n\u00f3. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n s\u1ebd l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a x\u00fac gi\u00e1c. H\u00e3y t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i ch\u1eadu tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh trong l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng \u1ed5n \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u1edbi n\u00f3. M\u1ed9t khi ch\u1ea1m v\u00e0o n\u00f3, b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y n\u00f3 qu\u00e1 n\u00f3ng \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea7m trong th\u1eddi gian d\u00e0i. V\u00ec v\u1eady, b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eb7t cho n\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i “t\u00ean” kh\u00e1c, m\u1ed9t n\u1ed3i l\u1ea9u. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m v\u00e0i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi n\u00f3 v\u00e0 s\u1eed d\u1ee5ng m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i g\u0103ng tay c\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t t\u00ean m\u1edbi \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3, \u00edt nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n so th\u1ee9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t t\u00ean<\/em><\/strong>. L\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u00e1c nh\u00e2n trong phim “The Ring” \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 hay \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi b\u1eb1ng b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 c\u00e1i t\u00ean n\u00e0o. N\u00f3i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1ch quan, trong b\u1ed9 phim n\u00e0y, nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3nh \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 r\u1ea5t \u00edt so v\u1edbi c\u00e1c phim kinh d\u1ecb kh\u00e1c. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 g\u1ecdi t\u00ean. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eb7t t\u00ean cho m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 th\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00e0ng l\u00e0m cho n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 h\u01a1n v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng khi\u1ebfn b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 g\u00ec<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Theo Peterson, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi n\u00f3i \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng:\u00a0“T\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 mang m\u1ecdi th\u1ee9 ra kh\u1ecfi v\u01b0\u01a1ng qu\u1ed1c kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t b\u1eb1ng ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb. T\u1eeb ng\u1eef kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 th\u1ea5p v\u00ec ch\u00fang c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh s\u00e1ng t\u1ea1o. \u0110\u1eebng t\u1ea1o ra th\u00eam s\u1ef1 ngu d\u1ed1t b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i m\u01a1 h\u1ed3.”<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 11: \u0110\u1eebng l\u00e0m phi\u1ec1n con b\u1ea1n khi ch\u00fang \u0111ang tr\u01b0\u1ee3t v\u00e1n<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t quy t\u1eafc c\u01a1 b\u1ea3n v\u1ec1 nam t\u00ednh. Gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 Jordan Peterson n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta r\u1eb1ng khi tr\u1ebb em l\u00e0m nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111i\u00ean r\u1ed3 tr\u00ean v\u00e1n tr\u01b0\u1ee3t v\u00e0 tay v\u1ecbn, ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean k\u1ec7 ch\u00fang. T\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 g\u00e2y nguy hi\u1ec3m nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ebb ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n t\u00ednh nam m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, n\u0103ng l\u1ef1c v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi hi\u1ec3m nguy. Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, nhi\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh vi n\u1ed5i lo\u1ea1n \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecdc th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 “nam t\u00ednh \u0111\u1ed9c h\u1ea1i” (toxic masculinity), nh\u01b0ng Peterson tin r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng l\u1ee3i \u00edch n\u00e0y l\u1edbn h\u01a1n so v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng x\u1ea3y ra.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7n lo\u1ea1n gi\u00fap con ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh h\u01a1n<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Khi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb qu\u1ea5y r\u1ea7y v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch, h\u1ecd l\u1ea1i th\u00edch m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u1ea9n ch\u1ee9a nhi\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3m nguy h\u01a1n l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. B\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng n\u00e0y, h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 tin v\u00e0o kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u1ed1i m\u1eb7t v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 h\u1ed7n lo\u1ea1n gi\u00fap h\u1ecd tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m v\u1eady v\u00ec l\u00ed do \u0111\u00f3, \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eadn h\u01b0\u1edfng r\u1ee7i ro m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh mong mu\u1ed1n (m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c). B\u00ean c\u1ea1nh \u0111\u00f3, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd v\u1ea5p ng\u00e3 khi g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 nguy hi\u1ec3m ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng mong \u0111\u1ee3i b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd \u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn. Th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng, \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quy lu\u1eadt 12: \u00c2u y\u1ebfm m\u1ed9t ch\u00fa m\u00e8o khi b\u1ea1n b\u1eaft g\u1eb7p ch\u00fa tr\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Quy t\u1eafc cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng n\u00e0y ch\u1ee7 y\u1ebfu l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 truy\u1ec7n v\u00e0 Peterson mu\u1ed1n cho ch\u00fang ta bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 bi k\u1ecbch v\u00e0 n\u1ed7i \u0111au. Khi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u bi th\u1ea3m \u0111ang \u1edf tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eb7t ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta b\u1ea5t l\u1ef1c, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i gi\u1eef \u0111\u00f4i m\u1eaft lu\u00f4n m\u1edf cho nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf b\u00e9 khi\u1ebfn cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u0111\u00e1ng gi\u00e1<\/em><\/strong>. Ti\u00eau \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ch\u01b0\u01a1ng n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea5y c\u1ea3m h\u1ee9ng t\u1eeb kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 vi\u1ec7c quan s\u00e1t m\u1ed9t con m\u00e8o \u0111\u1ecba ph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111i l\u1ea1c v\u00e0 xem c\u00e1ch n\u00f3 th\u00edch nghi v\u1edbi xung quanh trong m\u1ed9t m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u1eafc nghi\u1ec7t nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Khi b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1eb1ng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n b\u1ecb v\u1eb7n v\u1eb9o, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho n\u00f3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 n\u1eafm l\u1ea5y n\u00f3 cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi \u0111\u1eb7t n\u00f3 tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i tr\u00ean \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00e2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 r\u00fat ng\u1eafn ch\u00e2n tr\u1eddi t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Ng\u1eebng suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec s\u1eafp x\u1ea3y ra trong nh\u1eefng th\u00e1ng t\u1edbi. H\u00e3y suy ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec v\u00e0 l\u00e0m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7n ng\u00e0y h\u00f4m nay ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 trong nh\u1eefng gi\u1edd ti\u1ebfp theo. Thu nh\u1ecf khung th\u1eddi gian cho \u0111\u1ebfn khi cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1eed l\u00fd ph\u1ea7n c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e1ch b\u1ea1n \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u1ec9nh \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00e0n ph\u00e1<\/em><\/strong>. N\u00f3 r\u1ea5t quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecf cu\u1ed9c. Ngay c\u1ea3 trong nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 nh\u1ea5t, ngay c\u1ea3 khi b\u1ea1n \u1edf m\u1ed9t n\u01a1i m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch, h\u00e3y lu\u00f4n c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1ng gi\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

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